I am a Messianic Hebraic mother of three small children and wife to a West Indian man. I am… early 30s. I have children. My husband and I are from different cultures and backgrounds, altho we are both black, and, for some reason, look very much so alike, lol. I have been married over 10 years. I believe many, many things. I am not a Christian and do not have much in common with Christians due to my interpretation of the Scriptures. I am not a Jew because I will never follow the Talmud (don’t add or subtract from His Word!)
My husband is very intelligent — indeed he is the only man I have ever met that was smarter than me. So I am more than happy to be his helpmate and him be my covering. I love him very much; he is attractive but his mind is a gem and that is what attracts me the most! Our children are great kids! I am currently owner of a small beauty supply store, and am in the process of homeschooling my children and raising them to be Children of the Most High Elohim. I love my God and I love my husband and I love my children.
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Various Musings about Spirituality…and Polygyny
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December 21, 2010 at 1:13 am
altervater
Hi DreamGyrl360, found your blog and videos because I’m studying polygamy being a european white christian male; married since 17 yrs to my wife, its my 2nd marriage. The first one started with the best intentions, a huge wedding in church, we did not cheat each other, we had two daughters, but it was just terrible: I’ve never met a person before and after, who was so unhappy, disaffected, discontended with me than my first wife. And she refused to go to a marriage counselling or pastor, so I finally moved out – to broken windows and first steps of violence of both were warning signals enough.
I’m blogging too: biblicalfamilylife.wordpress.com, but its written in german, hard for you to read.
I’ll be your reader and follower, best wishes
your altervater (which means ‘olddaddy’)
July 25, 2012 at 2:02 pm
ifaseun
Hotep and Alafia my sister. I would like to say thank u for your viewpoints and blog, because your energy is very much needed for the healing of our families and community. I am in need of your help, I am a serious
Polygynous man and I am in a relationship with a sister who was at first fine with my ploygynous mindset but then and now she has went backward on our agreed collective stance. She has told me recently that she felt that she would be miserable if I received another cowife. I have tried to have proactive dialog about my aims and the reason for me to have more than one wife. I have ask her to research the African worldview vs. the European worldview model and I have ask her to talk to various elders who I knew who are also doing this lifestyle for her insight. So, do u have any ideas, or do u know various couple who are successful and can aid us though the role modeling process. Please help…. I can be reach at 7705470105…..
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July 26, 2012 at 12:01 pm
Dr3@MGYRL360
Shalom, brother!
Please understand that polygyny, the very IDEA of it, is very scary for we sisters that were born and raised in the Western world. I know and REMEMBER the anger and abject FEAR I felt when I first heard from my “play-brother” that polygyny was fine and that it was okay with The Most High! It was threatening to my ENTIRE being, it felt like!
Now that I am older in this understanding, I have concluded that the reason it felt threatening to me is because my entire life here in the Western society, I was taught that there was one man to every woman, and that that man, when I got him, he was MINE and no one else’s. I was taught that women and men were ultimately the SAME and that we should be entitled to the SAME things. So many levels of programming had to be broken down and removed within me.
And it was something that had to happen WITHIN myself, BY myself, in it’s OWN time. No real outside help could do.
HOWEVER —
I would strongly suggest that my sister reads “We Want for Our Sisters what We Want for Ourselves”, by Dr. Patricia Dixon, a sister who has researched and interviewed polygynous families from the Kemetic belief system as well as the Hebraic belief system and the Islamic belief system. While I was already FOR polygyny, this book just sealed the deal for me!
I don’t call people; I’m not good on the phone, I am often busy, got little kids and this house is LOUD and I am distracted the entire call. But typing allows me to address the issue with my full attention, whenever I have a moment. (even if I am cooking and cleaning and teaching between each paragraph lol) So I’m sorry to that end but I pray this is enough! Feel free to check me out on Facebook and if need be, contact me there because we have a whole group for sisters and polygyny that does NOT allow men and if she needs support, she can come to us there. 🙂 )
Blessings and peace to you and your household!
July 26, 2012 at 12:54 pm
Ifaseun
Thank u my sister i am very clear about how ours sisters feel about polygyny in this country and as well as the African dispora. Also on my end it really takes a lot of patient and I know Ifa and the orishas will guide me and our people upon that direction. I am not on facebook but my woman is, so if u can tell me the name of the group for sisters that deal with polygyny as well as your facebook handle I will pass it to her. Please check out my nonprofit for African black fathers called Daddysduties.org
December 13, 2012 at 11:56 am
Ifaseun
Hotep…my sister, how are u? I hope all is well with u and yours. Are there any program, social groups or networks that links single brothers with serious Polygyny-minded sisters?
December 19, 2012 at 7:27 pm
Dr3@MGYRL360
Shalom!
There’s alot of people on facebook linking up and such.
But I don’t know of any REAL forums for matching like that. There are some out there, they ask for money to join, and then nothing comes of it. THAT is what I hear from PEOPLE, because every time I even CONSIDER joining I fall back.
Because I’m stingy and I’on wanna give them sites my money until I see some proof that they are viable sites.
So beware, akhi!
And blessings!
February 13, 2013 at 4:32 am
Artiemis
Hey dreamgyrl360! I am a Hebrew Israelite woman and came into the truth about 2 years ago. My husband is interested in a 2nd wife and she happens to be his ex. I don’t want to be jealous. But what do I do with my feelings? When I want to get some clarity on what to do with my thoughts…what do I do? I can’t help but feel as if I wasn’t enough woman for him or I wasn’t doing something. I don’t want to feel this way but how do I avoid the fact that another woman will be getting my husband’s time making my already limited time with him less.
February 13, 2013 at 10:01 am
Dr3@MGYRL360
Shalom!
What must always be understood is the fact that it is never about you when a man gets another woman. You can be everything, you can be doing everything, you can be near-bout perfect, and he’s STILL going to want another woman. So please don’t feel like it’s about you. It’s not, at all. If we were more of the world — if he CHEATED on you, meaning you had no idea he was with someone else and being with someone else betrayed the agreement you two originally had with each other — it would STILL not be about you at all, akhotee.
To me, I always feel as if the husbands must make their wives feel secure in their position with him. He is not trying to replace you, it doesn’t mean that he doesn’t love you. You are you and your relationship with him is y’all’s relationship. But he wants to be with her, too. He wants to be responsible for her, too. That means that she will have her own place in his life; they will have their relationship.
And you will have y’all’s.
What I DO suggest tho, is, if you can get your hands on it, to purchase and read thoroughly Dr. Patricia Dixon’s book, “We Want for Our Sisters what We Want for Ourselves”. Pay attention to your jealousy, know that jealousy is always based on fear. Fear of loss of something. Love is never lost.
As for time being lost, y’all will have to communicate on time and whether or not y’all will live together and all of that.
Please be secure in yourself, sis. I pray this works out for you.
Blessings!
January 4, 2014 at 9:08 pm
ADETIBA
I’m looking into opening a beauty supply store, I saw that you owned one currently. Any insight advise or direction you could provide would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
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-Adetiba
January 6, 2014 at 11:24 am
Dr3@MGYRL360
please hit me up on facebook — dreamgyrl360.
Hit the inbox there with your questions. Thanks!